Be Safe

If you are going to play with bondage or spanking or resistance play or role-playing, it’s often wise to establish a “safeword,” which is a code word that means “Stop, now, “I’m serious”. You can both decide on your own Safe Words as long as they are words you wouldn’t normally use … Many people use “Green, Yellow, Red,” Green means “everything’s fine, ” Yellow means ” Don’t stop, but don’t do anything harder than that,” Red means ” Stop everything right now.” This is where trust comes in…

Meeting up for real…

Be very careful when playing with a new partner for the first time, particularly in cases where you do not already know the person, and most particularly in cases where you will be meeting someone you don’t know very well in any circumstance that could get you into trouble. Alway’s “word of mouth is better”, seek out your local Munch and go along, meet the people there, get to know them and let them get to know you… Always arrange your first meetings in public places. Don’t accompany a stranger everywhere. While it may seem like common sense “and it applies equally well to any dating situation, not just a BDSM relationship”, it’s still sometimes easy to forget…
One thing that is sometimes useful if you are going to be meeting someone you don’t know well in a private setting, is to arrange to have a friend call you at certain times throughout the night. Set up a secret code word with your friend; if you do NOT say that code word during the calls, or if you do not answer the calls, your friend should immediately notify the authorities. Make sure your friend knows where you will be, and make sure your partner knows that you have arranged these calls. A partner who objects is probably not a safe partner… But better safe than sorry, find a local Munch you can go to and socialise… You dont have to go into to it “guns a blazin”…………… To be continued…

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