The Darker Side…



Welcome to the world of BDSM..

Most people who practice BDSM believe that Trust and Safety are paramount and so it is alway’s “Safe, Sane, and Consensual”, three rules we live by and against popular belief, it is the submissive who is alway’s in charge…

What does BDSM have to do with romance, I hear you ask, well, you’ll find that out as you go along…

What is it?

“BDSM” is an acronym of…

  • B&D (Bondage & Discipline)
  • D&S (Dominance & Submission)
  • S&M (sadomasochism).

“BDSM” refers to any or all of these things, and a lot of stuff besides…


Tying up your lover is BDSM, even if you use “pink fluffy handcuffs” so is flogging that person, or any of a thousand other things. BDSM is highly erotic usually, “though not always” It doesn’t always involve sex, but is high on the psychological scale. One person, the “submissive” agrees to submit to another person, the “dominant” or, alternately, one person agrees to receive some sort of sensation, such as spanking, from another…

Some people like to be submissive all the time, some people like to be dominant all the time; some people like to switch, being submissive one day and dominant the next, Me well I am alway’s Dominant…

I think most people practice some element of BDSM in their sexual lives without even being aware of it. They may think of “S&M” as Whips and chains, yet still blindfold one another from time to time, or tie one another down and break out the whipped cream… “Ooooh whiped cream”… All of these things are “BDSM.”

I’ve met many people who engage in BDSM activities, such as bondage or spanking, but they’re “not into that BDSM scene.” Usually, it’s because they have an idea in their heads about what BDSM is, like “BDSM means wearing a leather mask and being chained to a wall and whipped, and “I don’t like that”, so I’m not into BDSM.” But BDSM desn’t necessarily mean wearing a hood and being chained to the wall. If you like being lightly spanked, or light bondage excites you, then you’re into BDSM…

BDSM is not necessarily hardcore sadomasochism; it can be remarkably subtle, sensual and soft. ” this is where the romance comes in “tying your partner to the bed with “your silk stockings” that, “by the way they have had to earn the right to remove” and running a feather boa, silk or ice cubes over your their body qualifies as “BDSM” specifically, of a variety called “sensual play”.

To be coninued…


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